Wednesday, January 6, 2016

SUGGESTED AREAS TO SET GOALS


As the New Year rolls by, it is not an uncommon thing for people to set goals or make resolutions.

However, in order to get the best out this exercise, it is important to put those goals in writing. This can be in a book or on a device.

The purpose of writing is to for you to make regular reviews and track your progress throughout the year.

If you have decided to set goals or you are already doing that or have done that, it is advisable to break them down into specific areas of your life.

The following are the suggested areas in which you can base your goals.

Spiritual Goals: Set goals to guide you on your walk with God this year. How much time do you want to devote to Prayer, Reading the Word of God, fasting, and so on? Do you want to attend the Believer’s Class and join the workforce of your Church? Is there a particular Christian event you’ve always wanted to attend or would like to attend? Put them done in writing and workout plans to achieve them.

Career Goals: Write down the ways in which you can improve your career this year. Do you need to take professional courses or exams or you simply need to work on your punctuality and improve your relationship with your colleagues at work. Whatever you can do to make your career better, write them down.

Academic Goals: If you are a student or a prospective student or academia, you need to set goals in this area. For students, the goals can be what grades you would like to get in the courses you are taking or the exams you want to write plus the amount of time you want to put into reading and studying.

Financial (and Business) Goals:  Here, you want to plan how to manage your income. What would be your manner of spending, saving or investment? Put them down in writing. If you run a business (no matter how small), you should set goals to improve your business. Also, if you intend to start a business, you must set goals in this regard.

Health Goals: If you are serious about your life, then you should be serious about your health. Make plans to imbibe habits that would improve your health and eschew those that can impair your wellbeing.

Family Goals: This is where you plan the amount of contribution or impact you want to have on your family. This can be towards specific members of your family or the family as a whole. If you are a parent, you can make Parenting Goals a subset of this area.

Relationship Goals: This can be targeted towards those whose relationship with you, you value. This refers to your friends, church members or your significant other. Write down specific ways you can improve your relationship with them.

Personal Development Goals: This is where you write down the ways you want to become a better person. Things to include here include the skills you want to learn or the books you want read. Do you want learn how to drive, swim, play an instrument,  how to cook or use a computer application? Whatever skill you want to learn, write them down and make plans to actualise them.

Material Goals:  This is where you simply list the material things you want to get. This can be items such as shirts, shoes; household items, electrical appliances or gadgets or vehicle.

Long Term Goals: There are goals you want to achieve but you know are not feasible this year, write them down as long term goals to keep track of them. Endeavour to break these long term goals into smaller goals and put the ones you can achieve this year into any of the headings stated in this article.

General (Miscellaneous) Goals: Every other thing that you cannot conveniently fit into the above areas, put them as general goals.

To get the best of this year, endeavour to set goals and review them regularly. And like one of my friends puts it: be resolute about your resolutions!

Happy New Year!

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Understanding the Personality Types (or Temperaments) - In Plain English

Each personality type has different strengths & weaknesses.

In some cases, a weakness is usually a strength pushed to the extreme.


The Analytical aka The Melancholic aka The Beaver

Positive Traits: Precise, Methodical, Organized, Rational, Detail Oriented
Negative Traits: Critical, Formal, Uncertain, Judgmental, Picky

They like systems and procedures.
They are slow to make decisions because they will analyze things to the extreme but their decisions are usually very sound.
They prefer working independently and are usually not very good in team environments, but they are also dependable.
They buy cars with good resale value and great gas mileage.
They are conservative dressers. At the party, they want to know why so much money was spent.
They come to the party with their laptops.


The Amiable aka The Phlegmatic aka The Golden Retriever

Positive Traits: Cooperative, Dependable, Warm, Listener, Negotiator
Negative Traits: Undisciplined, Dependent, Submissive, Overly Cautious, Conforming

They are dependable, loyal and easygoing; very compassionate.
They will give you the shirt off their backs and the last nickel in their pockets.
They are good listeners and value team players who don't "rock the boat."
They are usually conformists and followers, rarely leaders.
They avoid conflict and are not good decision makers.
They drive four-door sedans or mini-vans to take the kids to sporting events.
They usually clean up after the party is over.
                                                            

The Expressive aka The Sanguine aka The Otter

Positive Traits: Enthusiastic, Persuasive, Outgoing, Positive, Communicator
Negative Traits: Ego Centered, Emotional, Exploitive, Opinionated, Reacting

They Very outgoing and enthusiastic, with a high energy level.
They are also great idea generators, but usually do not have the ability to see the idea through to completion.
Very opinionated and egotistical. Money motivated. They can be good communicators.
They prefer to direct and control rather then ask and listen. T
hey drive red convertibles with great stereos; to heck with the gas mileage.
They come up with the idea for a company party, but never help clean up.
They are on their way to another party.


The Driver aka The Choleric aka The Lion

Positive Traits: Persistent, Independent, Decision Maker, Effective, Strong Willed
Negative Traits: Aggressive, Strict, Intense, Relentless, Rigid

Intelligent, intense, focused, relentless.
They thrive on the thrill of the challenge and the internal motivation to succeed.
Money is only a measure of success; it is not the driving factor.
They are results/performance oriented.
They have compassion for the truly disadvantaged, but absolutely no patience or tolerance for the lazy or whiners.
They drive prestige cars, not because the car attracts attention, but because it was a wise investment.
They want to know why we had a party; what were the benefits of the party, and did we invite the banker?





Wednesday, September 12, 2012

The Parable Of The Pencil

The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the
box. “There are 5 things you need to know,” he told the pencil, “Before I
send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and
you will become the best pencil you can be.”

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow
yourself to be held in Someone's hand.”

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but
you'll need it to become a better pencil.”

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.”

“Four: The most important part of you will always be what's inside.”

And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No
matter what the condition, you must continue to write.”

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with
purpose in its heart.


Now replacing the place of the pencil with you. Always remember them and
never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow
yourself to be held in God's hand. And allow other human beings to access
you for the many gifts you possess.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going
through various problems, but you'll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside.
 
Five: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No
matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.

By understanding and remembering, let us proceed with our life on this
earth having a meaningful purpose in our heart.

Author Unknown


Allow the Lord to write through your life things that will never be erased.
Each pencil has the potential to write the greatest of stories, but it
first must be held in the writers hand and so it is with us. We have the
potential to do so many great things if only we submit to the Master's
Hand and let God have His way

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

The 7 C's of Success by Brian Tracy


After having studied top achievers and peak performers over the past 25 years, I've concluded that these unique men and women, have in most cases, mastered what I call the Seven C's of Success.

Clarity
Eighty percent of success comes from being clear on who you are, what you believe in and what you want.

Competence
You can't climb to the next rung on the ladder until you are excellent at what you do now.

Constraints
Eighty percent of all obstacles to success come from within. Find out what is constraining in you or your company and deal with it.

Concentration
The ability to focus on one thing single-mindedly and see it through until it's done takes more character than anything else.

Creativity
Flood your life with ideas from many sources. Creativity needs to be exercised like a muscle, if you don't use it you'll lose it.

Courage
Most in demand and least in supply, courage is the willingness to do the things you know are right.

Continuous learning
Read, at the very least, one book a week on business to keep you miles ahead of the competition. And just as you eat and bathe, organize your time so you spend 30 minutes a day exploring e-mail, sending messages, going through web sites, because like exercise, it's the only way you can keep on top of technology. If you get away from it, you'll lose your edge.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

TIPS TO IMPROVE RELATIONSHIP WITH LOVED ONES

Give them the freedom to ask you questions without reacting or becoming defensive

Seek to hear their real inner feelings without ridiculing them

Freely express your own inner feelings & thoughts. Watch your tone of voice

Know clearly their ideas and plans for the future

Plan your schedule to include time with them

“Light up” when they return from a trip

Say “I love you” regularly & without conditions. Avoid using negative nicknames

Share your personal problems & victories

Act cheerful & encouraging. Smile toward them and laugh with (not at) them regularly

Actively attend or support their hobbies.

Seek & value their opinions

Pray with and for them regularly. Attend church together when possible

Build their trust by being consistently honest with them. Keep their secrets. Keep your promises

Actively listen to them by putting down the paper or turning down the television

Allow them to borrow your things

Seek their forgiveness immediately when you’ve offended them

Show an honest interest in their friends

Make a genuine effort to be on time

Do your fair share of shared responsibilities

Respect their property


*Adapted from the Smally-Trent Distance-Closeness Survey


Monday, June 25, 2012

A WORTHWHILE CREED

MY CREED by Dean Alfange

 I do not choose to be a common man. It is my right to be uncommon.
 I seek opportunity—not security.
I do not wish to be a kept citizen, humbled and dulled by having the state look after me.
 I want to take the calculated risk; to dream and to build, to fail and to succeed.
I refuse to barter incentive for a dole.
I prefer the challenges of life to the guaranteed existence; the thrill of fulfillment to the stale calm of utopia.
I will not trade freedom for beneficence nor my dignity for a handout.
 I will never cower before any master nor bend to any threat.
It is my heritage to stand erect, proud and unafraid; to think and act for myself, enjoy the benefit of my creations,
and to face the world boldly and say, with God's help, this I have done.

Originally published in This Week Magazine. Later reprinted in The Reader’s Digest, October 1952, p. 10, and January 1954, p. 122

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

A Short Course on Leadership

The Adair short course on leadership

The six most important words: ‘I admit I made a mistake.’
The five most important words: ‘I am proud of you.’
The four most important words: ‘What is your opinion?’
The three most important words: ‘If you please.’
The two most important words: ‘Thank you.’
The one most important word: ‘We.’
And the one least important word: ‘I.’